Author Archives: thyselfness

Drawing the line – respecting boundaries

The meeting of differences is called contact. The event that is created by this meeting of differences is called contact boundary. The meeting of sand and the sea is contact, the shoreline is contact boundary. We do not passively meet our environment. We pick and choose and at the same time are picked and chosen. […]

Opposites attract

Opposites attract. Joined opposites lead to the balance of the whole. One relationship pattern that is apparently present in every couple dynamic is, in Imago therapy terms, called maximizer and minimizer relationship. Maximizers are in general more extroverted and socially outgoing while minimizers are more passive and do not initiate social contact. In a relationships […]

Unconditional love

How do some of us end up in a series of the similar relationship with the same outcome and dynamic? Why do they all remind us of, and why do they feel like our relationship with one of our parents? Patterns of our behavior in each is astonishingly similar and the outcome is failure supported […]

Sensory awareness

We rarely appreciate how our senses provide us a great source of wisdom when we can allow it. When we’re more in touch with our sensations, free of the limitations of our busy thoughts, habitual attitudes and self-absorption, our lives are greatly enriched. At these times we experience a more freshly alive and deeper connection […]

Working with dreams

Dreamwork differs from classical dream interpretation in that the aim of the work is to explore the various images and emotions that a dream presents and evokes, while not attempting to come up with a single unique dream meaning. In Dreamwork the dreamer explores deeper meanings of the dream and only a dreamer knows for […]

Elisa Gindler – unlocking the body

Body psychotherapy has it roots in the fact that repression of feelings corresponded to inhibition of the body. Human beings develop fixed and rigid postures and patterns of relating in order to protect themselves against emotional pain. These patterns, pervade the whole body/mind, reaching all the way down into biological mechanisms (e.g. our metabolism, our autonomic nervous system, our breathing etc.).